DEFENSE:SHUTTING DOWN THE OPPONENT
PLAY #3 ACCOUNTABILITY-Letting Another Man Know My Junk
Nothing short of a prostate exam causes a man to quake in his boots more than the word “accountability”. To most guys it conjures up images of calling in weekly or daily to check in with your parole officer. They think the conversation goes something like this:
BOB-“Hey John, it’s me, Bob”
JOHN-“Bob, you’re two minutes late calling me, were you looking at porn?”
BOB-“Uh,no I was on the phone with my biggest customer. Sorry.”
JOHN- “Oh, come on Bob, you don’t expect me to believe that do you? Admit it, you were looking at porn!”
BOB- “No John I really wasn’t, just talking with a customer”
JOHN-“Well, then how many times have you looked at porn this week? I KNOW you have, so tell me the truth”
BOB-“Actually John, it’s a been a really good week. No porn at all but I am having a little trouble sticking with my budget. Could we talk about that?”
JOHN-”Who cares about budgets, let’s talk about you and porn!”
Get the idea? That’s why most guys refuse to even talk about being close friends with another man, much less have an accountability partner. The sad truth is over 90% of men 30 and older do not have even one close friend. They have lots of buddies: golf, fishing, hunting, whatever, but no friends. No one they can call on in times of stress. No one to be totally transparent with. And that’s sad, because no one stands alone and no man is capable of doing life on his own.
SCRIMMAGE
It’s seems obvious but most guys miss this first step: to have a friend you have to be a friend. But how do you that?
Four keys to friendship.
1. Loyalty
2. Commitment to a common set of values.
3. Be an encourager.
4. Able to keep a secret
Aren’t those the qualities that you’re looking for in a friend? If you found a guy who had all four do you think it would be difficult to be open and honest with him?
HUDDLE DISCUSSION STARTER
Which of the four qualities do you need to develop in your own life?
